is it real, or is it Memorex?

The body memory of experiences that are incomplete or unresolved can become triggered into our mode of operating in the present moment by things that are happening today. Sometimes the current happenings are reminiscent in some way of the previous unresolved events. Sometimes the current happenings are the catalyst in ways that can seem irrelevant and unexplainable. If it's stored in our nervous system and unresolved it can be triggered. That's the bottom line I'm working from here.

I had a reminder today of the importance of listening to the language we are using when talking about our internal experiences. When something that happened at an earlier time in our history is triggered, or opens up, into the present moment and we are filled with the feelings of that time, sometimes, we revert to talking about our self from that earlier age - -as if we still are that age. A simple example is the use of the phrase, "________ is going to kill me!" We might be referring to a friend, or partner/spouse, or employer. It is a very "young" phrase. Spoken as if one is still a child - -a time when parents' wield a feeling of authority and power and their rage can feel as enormous and threatening as a killing force to us. In using this phrase when adult there is a sense of less empowered, childhood reality (my mother's going to kill me) still operating within us and being expressed with our adult mouth. If we aren't listening to the language and noticing that we are feeling that small and vulnerable and unempowered, we might actually believe that we are that small and vulnerable. Right now. This can limit our actual current day options and leave us relating to other adults as if we are not one among them.

Sometimes it takes more processing of the unresolved experiences to find our footing again and feel our self to be the adult that we now are. The nervous system doesn't necessarily relinquish what it has been holding onto by only listening to our language. But listening can be a significant piece of the whole of what will help us finish what our body is still remembering and storing.

I might want to work on this one some more. Later.............